ridiculousness

what am i doing to sabotage my relationships ?

i think i do still have psycho behaviour embedded in the depths of my brain programming. everything that has led to this can i please uncreate and destroy ?

the happiness of having permed hair is that my hair actually looks nicer in the morning when i wake up as compared to after i shower and blow dry haha. good reason to be lazy and not wash my hair lalala waiting for it to dry is such a pain !

yesterday's 55 dollar shopping spree at victoriajomo was a success ! didn't think it was possible to stuff 8 pieces of clothing in one small bag. the stretchability power of ziploc ! haha

thanks trixie and xiaoxuan for a fun day out ! we have to try and find artichoke the next time.

I dislike discouragers

Dislike feeling less than whole when we're like this
Dislike that my mood turns sour
Dislike that i don't function normally
Dislike that i have no dinner
Dislike dislike dislike

I'm feeling : frustrated, upset, moody
Music : mariah carey

article writing rant

why aren't the words flowing ?!?!
sticking to one thought and trying to be clearer.... grrr
YOU CAN DO IT ! it's frustrating but worth it !

attempt to act shu nu

tadah ! decided to go for it and get a perm !

hahaha here are the preliminary pictures taken right after the hairstylist was done. Took photos to join this Miss Jean Yip competition so my hair looks so unnatural (while trying to look natural).

front

felt too self conscious

side

back

couldn't stand the smell of the hairspray and wax or whatever he put in my hair. and it felt very oily and yet stiff at the same time so i quickly washed it out and now it looks more natural. likes*

will post pictures soon !
whee

one thought, one thought and one thought, getting clearer and more specific

wow i'm growing and expanding !
my brain is being exercised to write better and stick with one thought and developing an article that is more focused and written with clarity.

to be a writer that shares valuable information, i have to dig DEEEP and share things that are very personal

challenging but fun

it will be so rewarding when i get it and writing good articles becomes easy and effortless !!

You are doing a good job ! *pats back ! keep it up Shuyan !

only thin girls can be famous meh

why those famous bloggers all so thin one. born like that is it ? tsk max out the singlish some more can be popular queen. gosh.

i have on an outfit with big ribbons

haha my top has a huge ribbon and my shorts have a small ribbon. i think trixie would hate it. the weekend is ending ! 4am mornings are here again :)

come on shuyan ! you can do it !

an article is waiting to be born ...

celebrity blogger

what consciousness and energy do i need to be a celebrity blogger ?

what can i do to actualize such a reality ?
maybe i should give quantum jumping a go....

discovered this site that generates celebrity names for you

I got : Utopia Peach Lim
and Raymond's would be : Scooby Cactus Chua

omg so amusing !

go to Celebrity Baby Name Generator to get yours !

happy birthday trixie !

is it crazy to spend more on a friend's birthday present than on yourself?

Boot Camp Day 3 - energize !!

The determination to wake up at 4am is quite a challenging one so we made a energize cheer to give ourselves a boost !



or click this link

Boot camp Day 1

Today is the start of Prosperity Sister's Boot camp. To wake up at 4am every morning for a whole month. No more laziness for Sueyan Lim Shuyan. Sticking to it and sucking it up for this month. How fabulous is it that today coincides with my 5 month anniversary with Raymond !!?? he helps me stay motivated and reminds me to stick to my plans instead of giving in to others' demands on my time. I stick to my gut feelings and instincts instead of discounting my inner voice and letting myself down.

It's not the easiest thing to do when I've been discounting myself and making my needs less important to give in to other people for so long. I'm learning, practicing and improving every day !

why do u keep doing this lim shuyan

bad habits die hard. like how a leopard never changes its spots.

its this thing about waking up when you're so tempted to snooze. how do you change that bad habit and turn it into who you are as a person.

my usual response when i see the time is ... hmm it's still early, why do i want to wake up so early for. and then no answer comes to me (probably because my brain is still in slumber mode), so i go right back to bed. or ... hmm still sleepy i can sleep in awhile more.
gahhh i've tried different methods but i think it still comes down to determination. and yet determination never really gets you anywhere. so how how how???
i know this bad habit is ruining everything !

things i've tried when i wake up to motivate me to get out bed (some successful, some not)
1. thinking " if i don't wake up now, will i regret it?"
2. setting a plan of what to do when i wake up at that time
3. making appointments that i need to keep so i have to wake up and get ready

dear manager,
please help me with a good sleep and wake up routine/habit that will allow me to accomplish many many things in a day, for my highest good and that will be fun and enjoyable for me and everyone around me. thanks

pole dance practice week 3 ! yayy !

time flies when you are doing something fun ! within a blink of an eye 3 weeks have passed.
i have improved over the past 3 week's lessons and am now able to do 9 different moves and even a simple pole routine !

lalala i remember my first lesson, being very confused and unable to differentiate which leg does what. After 3 weeks of familiarizing myself with the pole, making good friends with it, i find it easier to pick up new moves :)

whee now all i need is more flexibility like dirdybirdy then i'll be the happiest person on earth !

i learn at hualing dance studio ! it is just outside my house and very convenient to practice.

so so proud of my efforts to get stronger and better at the moves whee

my article : What To Do When You Fear Bumping Into Your Ex - 3 Reasons Why You Should Tell Your Friends About It

What To Do When You Fear Bumping Into Your Ex - 3 Reasons Why You Should Tell Your Friends About It

By Lim Shuyan

Well meaning friends often find all reasons to get you out of the house during your recovery phase. You may reluctantly agree to go along with their plans and find yourself at a nightclub in attempt to dance your sadness away. But who would expect that you now have a fear of bumping into him because the crowd looks like he could be there? You look around cautiously, unable to have a good time. What do you do? Do you try to deal with it yourself for fear of spoiling your friends' night of fun? Let me share with you 3 reasons why you should get their help.

There may be many reasons for your fear of seeing him. Sometimes I am self conscious, feeling that I don't look my absolute fabulous self because I wore my only clean pressed outfit and it may not be the most flattering piece in my closet. Other times I just don't feel ready to face him in a calm and composed manner without bursting into tears or screaming at him in anger.

The best way to overcome your fear of something is to get prepared. Those who fear the dark prepare themselves with flashlights. When you fear seeing your ex, you prepare an action plan for what to do. Good friends will do their best to help you, offering support and encouragement during this trying time. So get your friends who are out with you on this plan, or get their help in devising a strategy.

Reason #1: Your friends may be focused on having a good time and are unaware that you can do with more support.

The best person to take care of you, is YOU. Don't expect others to look out for your needs because over-reliance never leaves a good taste on the tongue. Even if your friends have your best intentions, they will not be able to know what you need 100% of the time. Being aware that you need some support and asking for it is a powerful way to rebuild the connection with yourself. Let go of all fear that you will be ruining their enjoyment because of your needs. Your friends are not mind readers and should not be treated as such. Be the one to voice out what you need from them and they will be more than willing to help you in any way.

Reason #2: Friends offer insightful advice and encouragement on how to overcome your fear.

Viewing your situation as a third party, your friends often see how well you've been coping with the breakup and your efforts to rebuild your life as a single. They can offer a different perspective when you are beating yourself up about not looking or feeling more confident. This way, you start to see yourself in a more positive light and acknowledge how well you are doing. This increases your confidence to go out there and face your demons if needed. See yourself the way your friends see you, as an amazing, wonderful, strong and resilient person handling a breakup.

Reason #3: They will know how you want them to help you.

Different people handle situations differently. In the scenario of meeting him at the nightclub, three different people may react in three different ways. One may run away, another may stay to chat and catch up, the last one might quickly say hi and leave confidently. The key is to decide which of the actions most suit your ability to handle the encounter. Then decide if you would like your friend to be around to give you moral support, pull you away, or prevent you from talking to him in the first place. Letting your friends know what to do prevents the situation where you blame them for doing the 'wrong' thing.

In conclusion, it can be beneficial to let the friends who are out with you know of your fear. This gives them to opportunity to be good friends and help support you in ways that you need to be supported. Being aware of your feelings and fears and asking for help when needed is important during this time of rebuilding the connection with yourself. They can offer insightful and more encouraging views of how well you are coping so that you feel more confident during the night. Lastly, letting them know what you would like them to do makes it easier for everyone to help you through and prevents blaming.

Sueyan Lim Shuyan shares advice on getting through a breakup and rediscovering yourself as a powerful individual. Reconnecting with yourself, mind body and spirit is a process. Although change can be painful, it also can bring about positive transformation in your life. For more tips on dealing with your breakup, go to my blog at http://bunnybreakup.blogspot.com.

It is important to acknowledge that you are coping well and to continue encouraging yourself. Go to http://www.prosperitysistersbeasyness.com to let your true self shine by positively encouraging yourself.

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