Self loving girls want the best in their life.
We can ask ourselves why we allow ourselves to settle and be treated badly. What decisions or patterns prevent us from living fulfilling loving relationships with others.
What can we do to be more self loving, express how other people's actions make us feel, take responsibility for our actions and make new decisions ?
Making decisions to live a more self loving life are not always easy. When another person is involved, things can get slightly more complicated.
Never give up. Take stock of how much you have changed throughout the years and take pride in how much more self loving you are now :)
Every small step counts !
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Sunday, September 25, 2011
New plan- becoming driven with the zest of life
There are many times i have laid in bed, awake but not ready to get up and go through the day. Lying with my eyes open, pondering about my life, i often fall back asleep (my mind has made the decision that i would rather be asleep than awake, doing stuff). I can say that i'm an expert on this daily cycle of 'to wake or not to wake'.
Usually, i blame it on a subconscious decision not live, that its too hard to be in this physical body, that everything is such an effort. Mentally i know this is a thought of living weakly, not using the power of creation in life. However, i often find that taking action is not as simple as i had planned.
Thinking back on my past and where i am now, using the ultimate success formula must mean that i should try something different to get a different outcome.
In the past, i have been living a powerless and unmotivated life. I feel driven and excited by relationships that are going well and new fun projects. Still living like a little child, i made decisions based on what other people (usually my parents) wanted for me. I appreciate their best efforts and good intentions.
Now, i decide that i want to be a creator of my life, to be more driven and self motivated by what i want. To lead a balanced life where I honour my needs, desires and wants and constantly remind myself of why i want these things and prefer it over sleeping 12 hours a day. Not that sleep is bad, because during slumber we always get back into the vortex, into allignment with who we really are. I could continue my past habits of being unable to wake up, but i choose to live life differently now.
I wake up in joy, eager for the day to play out. It is when i am awake that i create my life. Being asleep is fun and awesome to be paying in the astral, but now i choose to come back grounded in my body and have an awesome time awake and alive !
To have a new mentality about life and waking up, is like building a new habit. It will take some time, effort and constant realligning with who i want to be based on who I AM. I know these things, now is the time to put into action.
When i get clearer about my life, i get clearer when i speak and write.
Usually, i blame it on a subconscious decision not live, that its too hard to be in this physical body, that everything is such an effort. Mentally i know this is a thought of living weakly, not using the power of creation in life. However, i often find that taking action is not as simple as i had planned.
Thinking back on my past and where i am now, using the ultimate success formula must mean that i should try something different to get a different outcome.
In the past, i have been living a powerless and unmotivated life. I feel driven and excited by relationships that are going well and new fun projects. Still living like a little child, i made decisions based on what other people (usually my parents) wanted for me. I appreciate their best efforts and good intentions.
Now, i decide that i want to be a creator of my life, to be more driven and self motivated by what i want. To lead a balanced life where I honour my needs, desires and wants and constantly remind myself of why i want these things and prefer it over sleeping 12 hours a day. Not that sleep is bad, because during slumber we always get back into the vortex, into allignment with who we really are. I could continue my past habits of being unable to wake up, but i choose to live life differently now.
I wake up in joy, eager for the day to play out. It is when i am awake that i create my life. Being asleep is fun and awesome to be paying in the astral, but now i choose to come back grounded in my body and have an awesome time awake and alive !
To have a new mentality about life and waking up, is like building a new habit. It will take some time, effort and constant realligning with who i want to be based on who I AM. I know these things, now is the time to put into action.
When i get clearer about my life, i get clearer when i speak and write.
Lets try something different to get a different outcome - the ultimate success formula
I first learnt about the ultimate success formula when i was 14 attending a motivational camp by Adam Khoo. It is so easy and straightforward that i often forget it.
The ultimate success formula is based on assessing where your past actions have led you to and in order to achieve a different outcome, try a different method. It's logical that doing the same thing over and over again can only lead to the same outcome. Based on what i've been doing and the kind of outcome i have had for the past week (sleeping for more than 12 hours), i decide that this is not the lifestyle i would like to have.
Ah ha ! Sueyan Lim is thus wise today to do something different in order to change become a more vivid and fulfilling creator of her life !
According to Abraham, we don't need as much sleep as we think. So i decided to test what my day would be like if i followed my body's rhythm and actually woke up (and got out of bed-thats the important part) when my body clock woke me up. Instead of lying in bed pondering over the dilemma of whether to get up or go back to sleep, often falling asleep in the process, i decide to sit up, drink some water, do some stretching and blog about it.
I think it is a really good idea for me to blog first thing when i wake up. I can probably catch some very interesting thoughts from dreamland.
This is the second time that i have gone to bed around midnight and woke up naturally at 251am.
According to Doreen Virtue's book 'Angel Numbers 101' , 251 means you sre steering the wheel of your life right now. It's essentiwl that you stay positive about the changes you are making or considering, as that determines your destination Apt words for me in carrying out my plan to lead a more fulfilling life where i am jouyously awake, creating and attracting abundance in my life.
I feel very accomplished to be awake, enjoying the pitter patter of rain and the rumbling of thunder, even the occassional glimpse of lightning as it flashes across my window. Last week's stunt of alot of sleeping must be my body's way of getting back into alignment of who i am and what i want in my life, flushing out toxins and having a good rest. Through experiencing a situation i do not prefer, can i decide to make a new decision about my life and plan action steps to achieve it.
The ultimate success formula is based on assessing where your past actions have led you to and in order to achieve a different outcome, try a different method. It's logical that doing the same thing over and over again can only lead to the same outcome. Based on what i've been doing and the kind of outcome i have had for the past week (sleeping for more than 12 hours), i decide that this is not the lifestyle i would like to have.
Ah ha ! Sueyan Lim is thus wise today to do something different in order to change become a more vivid and fulfilling creator of her life !
According to Abraham, we don't need as much sleep as we think. So i decided to test what my day would be like if i followed my body's rhythm and actually woke up (and got out of bed-thats the important part) when my body clock woke me up. Instead of lying in bed pondering over the dilemma of whether to get up or go back to sleep, often falling asleep in the process, i decide to sit up, drink some water, do some stretching and blog about it.
I think it is a really good idea for me to blog first thing when i wake up. I can probably catch some very interesting thoughts from dreamland.
This is the second time that i have gone to bed around midnight and woke up naturally at 251am.
According to Doreen Virtue's book 'Angel Numbers 101' , 251 means you sre steering the wheel of your life right now. It's essentiwl that you stay positive about the changes you are making or considering, as that determines your destination Apt words for me in carrying out my plan to lead a more fulfilling life where i am jouyously awake, creating and attracting abundance in my life.
I feel very accomplished to be awake, enjoying the pitter patter of rain and the rumbling of thunder, even the occassional glimpse of lightning as it flashes across my window. Last week's stunt of alot of sleeping must be my body's way of getting back into alignment of who i am and what i want in my life, flushing out toxins and having a good rest. Through experiencing a situation i do not prefer, can i decide to make a new decision about my life and plan action steps to achieve it.
love yourself: honor your sexy body and have sex for the right reasons
Being sexy is a wonderful thing. It's great to be in touch with your body, exuding sexualness from being comfortable in the way you look. Who gets to define what being sexy is anyway. No matter what you look like, if you feel sexy then you are sexy. And when you feel good, no doubt guys are going to want a piece of you.
Because I have fallen trap to having sex for the wrong reasons, I admire my friends who honor their body and have the self love to say NO to sex.
If you are not in a committed relationship with him and are planning to get intimate for the following reasons, do think twice and check with your body if that is really what you want to do.
1. To feel loved
2. To feel sexy, hot, desirable and wanted
3. To keep the guy
4. To feel better about yourself
5. Afraid of saying no
If you don't feel 100% sure about getting physically intimate with a guy, it is probably not the right decision for you. Having sex for the reasons above, and any reason other than to further enhance emotional intimacy in your relationship, only leads to heartache. Know that you have the power to walk away from any situation and cause him physical pain if needed. Being true to what your heart tells you is more rewarding then leaving with regret and disappointment.
Self love comes from within. You will feel better when you love yourself instead of looking outside you for love. Looking for validation of how beautiful, gorgeous and sexy you are will never be as fulfilling as knowing that you are an amazing woman.
Because I have fallen trap to having sex for the wrong reasons, I admire my friends who honor their body and have the self love to say NO to sex.
If you are not in a committed relationship with him and are planning to get intimate for the following reasons, do think twice and check with your body if that is really what you want to do.
1. To feel loved
2. To feel sexy, hot, desirable and wanted
3. To keep the guy
4. To feel better about yourself
5. Afraid of saying no
If you don't feel 100% sure about getting physically intimate with a guy, it is probably not the right decision for you. Having sex for the reasons above, and any reason other than to further enhance emotional intimacy in your relationship, only leads to heartache. Know that you have the power to walk away from any situation and cause him physical pain if needed. Being true to what your heart tells you is more rewarding then leaving with regret and disappointment.
Self love comes from within. You will feel better when you love yourself instead of looking outside you for love. Looking for validation of how beautiful, gorgeous and sexy you are will never be as fulfilling as knowing that you are an amazing woman.
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
vimeo fanatic !
been using vimeo alot lately to upload our videos for our baby 'Soothing Positive Self Encouragement Kit' whose birthday party is next Wednesday 14 September 2011. wheeee
testing out the use of password protect, embedding etc...
testing out the use of password protect, embedding etc...
Sunday, September 4, 2011
new discovery : determination vs perseverance
oooh i have discovered a new concept and pattern about my life which is about determination and perseverance.
I am quite familiar with the word perseverance, having used it as a strong quality of mine in interviews previously, mostly due to the constant use of it as one of the 3 values as a Cedarian during my Secondary School days.
But today.... lo and behold ! Raymond told me that the reason i always sleep so much is because i don't have DETERMINATION to wake up. omg major lightbulb !
i realised that i do have a lot of perseverance when it comes to finishing a project or putting in all that I CAN when i've started something, or to get it completed (if possible). But yes this thing called 'Determination' i'm not so good friends with yet. Determination to START something.. ahhhh now that's something to ponder about...
And how do i develop DETERMINATION anyway ?
is it the same as using WILLPOWER?
hmmm how do i create determination in the easiest way possible so that what i want = what i get + doing what i say i want to do
I am quite familiar with the word perseverance, having used it as a strong quality of mine in interviews previously, mostly due to the constant use of it as one of the 3 values as a Cedarian during my Secondary School days.
But today.... lo and behold ! Raymond told me that the reason i always sleep so much is because i don't have DETERMINATION to wake up. omg major lightbulb !
i realised that i do have a lot of perseverance when it comes to finishing a project or putting in all that I CAN when i've started something, or to get it completed (if possible). But yes this thing called 'Determination' i'm not so good friends with yet. Determination to START something.. ahhhh now that's something to ponder about...
And how do i develop DETERMINATION anyway ?
is it the same as using WILLPOWER?
hmmm how do i create determination in the easiest way possible so that what i want = what i get + doing what i say i want to do
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